FRIENDSHIPS

“Write on friendships,” that’s what my human suggested and I just had to.

The way I love my friends is mwaaah. I lack a good term for this. When they say love people love people I just knew I had to. Without a manual of how they want to be loved I just try and figure it out. This particular blog may end up being a suspenseful narrative or rather something so raw, so me.

I was never a social person. Never outgoing. I would shut myself out and push people away. This trait changed three years ago and change is inevitable!! I didn’t have a lot of friends. After highschool I realized oops! Maybe am too late for this. Everyone seemed to be so invested in friendships. People had bestfriends, closefriends, people they called their paprika, jelly, honey, croissants and all those ádorable’ pet names. I felt like I had missed out a lot. It was hard picking myself up. It was hard starting over from where I left. It was hard trying to bond again with friends from primary because we had grown and it wasn’t the same. I stayed in my cocoon till campus. It had to be a new start.

This is what I think of friendships;

Friendship is a series of exchange; of affection, time, information, stories and so much that I can’t seem to elaborate. The friends I have right now make me feel like I am the one revolving around the world. The constant support to go for what I want, what I believe in, how they hit me with blunt truths aaah I love those souls. Its interesting how you get to love people day by day not because of physical attraction, sex, property, family status, dressing, having children and so on. You tend to love them for who they are on the inside, their personalities define who they really are.

With time I got stable. I know how to keep friendships alive. As the author Hanya Yanigara said “there’s one trick with friendships, find people who are better than you not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, more generous, more forgiving and be ready to accept what they have to teach you and what they have to say about you. Appreciate the good part and correct the bad. trust them.” This has helped me in forming friendships. I believe my friends have something better. Deadass me used to convince myself am better than everyone else and truth is, that’s all an illusion. A strategy that used to keep me away from dismal. I see growth in me. I see growth in my friendships.

Take your time

Be easy

You are coming home

To yourself

When in friendship, don’t be malignant. Growing from pain leaves your body with scars, your soul actually. Talk it out with your people. Am sure they will help you out. Don’t get stuck in a reality you need to face when you have people to talk to. The ability to revel in our most honest quality is the best feature in friendships. Keep it real and count it in all joy brethren to have the people you have or the people God has set to be on your paths through the journey of this thing called life.

Recently, someone told me how I choose friends in class. Sorry if this offends anyone but each one of us has a right to choose who we associate ourselves with. Choose people to love, choose people to care for. Don’t wait to be chosen but be sure whoever you choose chooses you back. One of my friends once told me “in a room full of people he would choose me” that’s the sweetest thing someone has ever said to me.

Hate is a big word but I hate the betrayal. You are never sure what will become of you and your friends. I’ll say to my loves how I want our kids to play and grow together but we don’t know what tomorrow holds. The fear is disconcerting. You never know if you’ll lose your close friends to a clique, or maybe the universe will just find a way to snatch them from you. All in all focus on what’s at hand. We deal with our mediocre emotions. Loving people the way they need to be loved and treating them no lesser than human. Not defining them by what they lack but by what make them bloom.

When you feel betrayed I really feel your pain. Be ready to walk away from toxic friendships. Don’t be drained. Turn and walk away if the door is shut when the person is inside and doesn’t open when you knock. Don’t break the door. This seems like bad advice but gauge the situation. Try closure first.

Friendships make life less lonely despite age. Friendships shouldn’t be complex or codified. Don’t worry about the uncertainties. Fight adversaries together. Be happy. Make sure to grow. Avoid bad company. What if yáll are bad company heeh!!

When I look at my friends I think of how God made sunsets and sunflowers so beautiful. My personal sunsets are my friends. Being loved by me is heavenly right?

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